Monday, December 13, 2010
Workaholic: Characteristics of a Workaholic
Like other “aholics,” the workaholic has an unhealthy addiction. In this case, the addiction is for work, career, or a belief that they are “the only one who can do the job right.” Without this consuming focus, the workaholic may believe he’s a failure or has little worth. Often, this is a sign of insecurity or having priorities out of order.
Workaholics will spend most of their lives at work or taking work home with them. They will often have little time for personal lives -- family, hobbies, or relaxation. Having a balance is not just a preferable desire; it is needed for overall mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional health.
Workaholic: How to find Balance
Step back and look at your life. Are you sacrificing other areas of your life because of the time and attention you spend on work? If pursuing a short term financial goal is more important that assuring a long-term relationship with your spouse and children, you need to rethink your priorities. Sure, you might tell yourself that you are working to provide for your family and that is a necessary part of life. But be honest, is there a balance in the time you spend on each? Balance is truly the key.
- Set limits on the hours and attention you devote to your job.
- Set aside quality time for your personal relationships and pleasures.
- Confront possible fear of failure or insecurities -- talk to a pastor or counselor.
- Define your worth through God, do not replace Him with idolizing self or career.
- Use your creativity toward accomplishments other than work, perhaps hobbies.
- Be sensitive to the needs of your family and friends.
- Take up healthy physical workouts -- swim, hike, or go to the gym.
When we are physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally well balanced, everything we do is going to be affected. We perform better at our jobs; we enjoy less-stressed relationships with our loved ones, and finally we can enjoy the purpose and beauty of life that God has provided for us. You know, a “stop and smell the roses” appreciation.
When we achieve that lifestyle balance, we will more easily attain that inner peace we all strive for. We don’t have to fear insecurities. We can turn to God and pray for wisdom and guidance. Our spiritual relationship with Him can not be ignored.
This is how Robert turned it around: “No matter how hard I work, I will never be indispensable to any corporation, committee, or employer. I will never be as valuable as I’d like to think I am. I was nearly killing myself from stress and exhaustion. Was it worth it? I thought so for awhile. But I was making work my idol and discovered how wrong I was.
“I didn’t know my kids, my marriage was falling apart, and my health was deteriorating. Then one day God reminded me that health and relationships with my family and Him are what life is all about. If I didn’t start taking care of myself, I wouldn’t be there for them or my employer. If I didn’t find a balance, I wouldn’t have a family!
“I can’t go back and recapture what I’ve lost with my family, but I certainly don’t want to miss out on anymore. God helped me see their value and how much they value me. He is the one who fulfills my need to hear “You’re irreplaceable!” I now know I can wrongly decide my priorities; I now submit that decision to God. He planned the purpose of my life and I have repented for ignoring my family and my God.”
Posted by MuzammilRazali at 10:40 AM
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
There are many ways to reduce tension and relax. Here are the ten stress relievers I believe are most effective for the amount of work and time involved. Some can be learned in the time it takes to read this page, while others take a little more practice, but there's something here for everyone!
1. Breathing Exercises
Deep breathing is an easy stress reliever that has numerous benefits for the body, including oxygenating the blood, which ‘wakes up’ the brain, relaxing muscles and quieting the mind. Breathing exercises are especially helpful because you can do them anywhere, and they work quickly so you can de-stress in a flash. The Karate Breathing Meditation is a great exercise to start with, and this basic breathing exercise can be done anywhere!
Meditation builds on deep breathing, and takes it a step further. When you meditate, your brain enters an area of functioning that’s similar to sleep, but carries some added benefits you can’t achieve as well in any other state, including the release of certain hormones that promote health. Also, the mental focus on nothingness keeps your mind from working overtime and increasing your stress level. Here's an article on different types of meditation to help you get started.
3. Guided Imagery
It takes slightly more time to practice guided imagery, but this is a great way to leave your stress behind for a while and relax your body. Some find it easier to practice than meditation, as lots of us find it more doable to focus on ‘something’ than on ‘nothing’. You can play natural sounds in the background as you practice, to promote a more immersive experience. Building on guided imagery, you can also imagine yourself achieving goals like becoming healthier and more relaxed, doing well at tasks, and handling conflict in better ways. Also, visualizing yourself doing well on tasks you’re trying to master actually functions like physical practice, so you can improve your performance through visualizations as well!
Self-hypnosis incorporates some of the features of guided imagery and visualizations, with the added benefit of enabling you to communicate directly you’re your subconscious mind to enhance your abilities, more easily give up bad habits, feel less pain, more effectively develop healthier habits, and even find answers to questions that may not be clear to your waking mind! It takes some practice and training, but is well worth it. Learn more about using hypnosis to manage stress in your life.
Many people exercise to control weight and get in better physical condition to become more healthy or physically attractive, but exercise and stress management are also closely linked. Exercise provides a distraction from stressful situations, as well as an outlet for frustrations, and gives you a lift via endorphins as well. This article can tell you more about the stress management benefits of exercise, and help you get more active in your daily life.
7. Progressive Muscle Relaxation
By tensing and relaxing all the muscle groups in your body, you can relieve tension and feel much more relaxed in minutes, with no special training or equipment. Start by tensing all the muscles in your face, holding a tight grimace ten seconds, then completely relaxing for ten seconds. Repeat this with your neck, followed by your shoulders, etc. You can do this anywhere, and as you practice, you will find you can relax more quickly and easily, reducing tension as quickly as it starts!
You probably already know that sex is a great tension reliever, but have you officially thought of it as a stress-relieving practice? Perhaps you should. The physical benefits of sex are numerous, and most of them work very well toward relieving stress. Sadly, many people have less sex when their stress levels are high. Learn how to avoid this trap!
Music therapy has shown numerous health benefits for people with conditions ranging from mild (like stress) to severe (like cancer). When dealing with stress, the right music can actually lower your blood pressure, relax your body and calm your mind. Here are some suggestions of different types of music to listen to, and how to use music in your daily life for effective stress management.
Yoga is one of the oldest self-improvement practices around, dating back over 5 thousand years! It combines the practices of several other stress management techniques such as breathing, meditation, imagery and movement, giving you a lot of benefit for the amount of time and energy required. Learn more about how to manage stress with yoga.
Posted by MuzammilRazali at 10:46 PM